"We get it. Your fiancée is devouring 87 wedding planning books, magazines, and blogs that all have the chipper tone of "Yaaaayyyy, Wedding!!!" It amounts to wedding-porn. And it makes you sick. So you can just ignore it and check out, right?
Yes and no. Hopefully, she'll do the heavy lifting. But for better or worse, you also have a starring role in this sucker. So even though "real men don't plan weddings" and "real men don't need advice," in this case, you need advice. Think about it like this: if you believe that you don't need any help, then you're implying, by logical extension, that you were born with some innate inner-gift for wedding planning.
Let's be clear. Marriage is great. Your girlfriend is great. But here's the thing about wedding planning: it kinda sucks. It's frivolous. It's stressful and wasteful. It makes you play along with a fake smile, bored and bitter, creating the illusion that you give a damn. Adding to the stress, your girlfriend is wonderful and lovely and all those syrupy clichés, but she's about to become a bride...who is none of those things. You will soon be confused. You will soon be frustrated.
Yawn. We all know the cliché. She plans the wedding like she’s masterminding the launch of a space shuttle, lugging around a fat nerdy binder, hyperventilating, both appalled by your indifference and, simultaneously, unforgiving when your suggestions betray your naiveté. So you say nothing, do nothing, think nothing. That’s your job, right?
Actually, no. Not if you’re smart. At a few key moments, your vigorous involvement will make this whole slog, paradoxically, feel like less of a root canal. No need to go all Male Martha Stewart—not that there’s anything wrong with that—but when the chips are down, it’s not in your interest to stand on the sidelines, useless, like Ladainian Tomlinson in the 2008 AFC title game.
90% of the time you can get away with muttering, “Mmmm hmmm” and “buttercream sounds nice” while you doze off, check email on your Blackberry, or find a razor that’s sharp enough for suicide. That other 10% of the time, however, you need to wake up."
Read More Here - and especially this article - 20 rules for Fantasy Football and, oddly, wedding planning
